Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Weekly Weigh-In

Sorry to start back with a lame weight check post, but it's Wednesday, after all!  I'll try to get something with pictures up later.  But here are this week's stats:


Two weeks ago: 9.0 kg (19 pounds, 13 ounces), 32.5 inches
This week: 8.95 kg (19 pounds, 12 ounces), 31.5 inches
Two weeks' change: -50 grams (1 ounce), - 1 inch
Net change:  +1250 grams (37 ounces), +2.5 inches 

And that puts us right where we were on November 17th.  No gain in 7 weeks.  If only we could keep her from vomiting...I'm really starting to wonder if we should have done the nissen surgery that would prevent her from throwing up.  The doctor didn't think it was necessary, but, like I've said before, he's never actually seen the massive pile of puke.

Becca got a baby doll from Santa, and today she made her baby throw up.  Good pretend play, but I sure wish "doh dup" wasn't so embedded in her psyche.

(On the upside, though, Becca has just about kicked the cold she picked up travelling, and she actually signed and said "eat," walked over to her high chair and said, "Yeah, yeah," which roughly translates as, "Please do whatever it is that I am asking you to do, right now, please." (She's quite the combination of stubborn and polite, little stinker.)  That's a good sign!)

Monday, January 3, 2011

We're Ba-ack!

How about that for a Christmas break?  I guess moms get them, too!  But we're home, back to the routine, and hopefully back to blogging.  I don't have much time right now, as I've got BIG plans for this naptime (taking a hot shower!  Wow!), but I'll give you one nugget of fun in the Itty Bitty household. 

This morning, I woke up to Becca screaming.  I figured that she had thrown up again like normal, but when I rushed into her room, she was waving her hand and yelling, "Pooh pooh!  Pooh pooh!  Pooh pooh!"  Yep, you guessed it, folks: her sweet little hand was covered in poop. She had apparently pooped and then stuck her hand down her diaper.  (Why, I'll never know.) Luckily for me, she was so freaked out by having something on her hand (and not just because it was poop - anything visible on her hands elicits this reaction) that she was standing stock-still, except for the hand waving.  Much easier clean up that way.  See, sensory issues do have their upside.  No poop-smeared walls in our house (yet).

Be sure to check back the rest of the week for some picture-laden Christmas recaps and a 2010 year in review series!

Friday, December 17, 2010

TennCare Cuts

Last night, Nashville's NewsChannel 5  covered another story about TennCare and disabled kids.  The Hamby family's story is very much like ours (except that their son has had 21! surgeries, making Becca's 5 look pretty measly).  Little James will be losing his TennCare coverage as of January 1st.  (I'm not sure why had got to keep his so long when most of us were kicked off early this year.)  His mom stays home to take care of him and to shuttle him to doctors' and therapy appointments, and his dad works 4 jobs, one of which is as a public school teacher.  Even with their private insurance, the co-pays and excluded items will cost a great deal of money, and they are afraid that even with dad's 4 jobs, they won't be able to cover it all.

These are not irresponsible people who have made poor decisions.  They are (or at least appear to be -- I don't actually know them) hard-working people who had the misfortune of having a son born very early.  (In the piece, the reporter says that he was born 5 months early, but I'm guessing what she really meant was that he was born AT 5 months - 23-24 weeks, as opposed to 20 weeks gestation.  I could be wrong, and people have assumed that Becca's birthweight is a typo before, but I think I most likely would have heard about a surviving 20-weeker born in the mid-state area.)  They didn't choose this path, and they are doing everything they can to give their son the best shot at living up to his potential.  But then, due to "budget cuts," the state pulls the rug out from under them, and they will likely have to begin choosing from among the many therapies, appointments, and/or procedures, all of which are contribute to giving little James the best shot at a normal life - and, if you have to think about it in economic terms, the best shot at becoming a contributing member of society, functionally and financially.  Sure, in the article you hear that a local business collected $1,400 for the family, and that's GREAT, but let me tell you that $1,400 will not go far.  $1,400 won't even pay for 2 weeks of Becca's co-pays and excluded expenses.  

I don't mention Becca's expenses and the community contribution to the Hambys to ask for pity or contributions.  I mention it because it's evidence that we need a systemic, societal approach to caring the members of our community that cannot care for themselves.  I don't want to get into a debate about people who other people think could or should  care for themselves; I'm talking about people who flat-out can't do so.  Good Lord, if we, as the wealthiest society in the world, can't care for disabled kids, what in the world is wrong with us?  What's next, shooting golden retriever puppies for the fun of it?  To me, this is one of the basic functions of government: to serve as a safety net for those members of society who can't meet their basic needs.  And I'm also not talking about having the state pay to send Becca to Disney World or, oh, Harpeth Hall (though, HH folks, if you are reading and want to send a full scholarship our way, I'll be happy to share Becca with you in, oh, 7 years ;) ).  I just want to keep my baby from being cut off from her health care.  

Our private insurance does not cover any of Becca's feeding supplies (about $700/month) or her special formula (also about $700/month) or her growth hormone shots (about $1,000/month, but that will go up as her dosage increases), and it leaves us with 20% of nearly all covered expenses.  20% of her therapy costs is $822 a month (yes, that's the 20%, not 100%), leaving us with a grand total of about $3200 a month.  Add in a pediatrician appointment, a visit with one of our nine specialists and a lab test of some sort (which would be a pretty slow month doctor-wise), and we're easily up to $3500.  Multiply that by 12, and you've got $42,000 a year.  What "normal" family can afford that kind of cash?  Even if I do (crossing my fingers) find a job, we'll have to pay to put Becca in daycare full-time (and only certain daycares would accept her, mind you), which would run somewhere around $10,000 a year in these parts, which quickly tops out above the top range of my earning potential- and I have a master's degree.  We have been very, very, very fortunate to be able to keep our TennCare coverage this year (for Becca - John and I don't qualify, and that's fine with us) because of our modest income, but next week I have our recertification interview.  We could quite possibly lose our coverage in January, too.

Makes you think, doesn't it?  Especially in a week in which Congress voted to extend tax cuts to the wealthiest Americans, essentially giving them $36,000,000,000 back in their overstuffed pockets, and to exempt the first $5,000,000 of an inheritance from estate taxes.  Perhaps unfortunately for me, I don't know anyone who will benefit greatly from these breaks, as they are reserved for the wealthiest 0.1% of Americans.  

I count among my readers some very conservative, very compassionate, very faithful and very generous people, whom I know interpret the role of government differently than I.  Many of them would say that it's best to let people keep their own money so that they can distribute it to charitable causes as they see fit.  And many of you actually put your money behind your words.  But I guess I'm a realist (some of you will no doubt see me as a pessimist): I think that when left to our own devices, we hoard more than we need and we, the collected members of society, fall short in helping others meet their basic human needs.  Often charitable giving is heartfelt and helpful, like the $1400 given to the Hamby family...but it's still a drop in the bucket for this family, and there are many more families like them.  I have a dear friend who has long been a political and theological conservative, but lately she has tended to vote more Democratic because, in her words, she "had to stop voting based on how [she thinks] the world should be," with folks, churches, etc. giving enough to help everyone who truly needs it, "and start voting based on how the world is."  

I would love to be proven wrong.  If you count yourself among the super-wealthy (or if the IRS does), adopt James.  Or Dax.  Or Bella.  Or Mary Farris.  Or Becca.  Cover their expenses.  Go for it.  I dare you.  But I'm not holding my breath for you.  

To the rest of you, who may not be plotting the best way to pass on your $20,000,000 estate to your kids, all I ask is that you keep these issues in mind as you ponder your political inclinations, as you vote, as you talk with friends.  And if you're in Tennessee, maybe you could contact your incoming state legislators to encourage them to reinstate TennCare coverage for disabled children.  Because, really, if we can't agree to help these kids, I'm afraid there is very little hope for any of us.

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Weekly Weigh-In

Last week8.85 kg (19 pounds, 9 ounces), 32.5 inches
This week: 9.0 kg (19 pounds, 13 ounces), 32.5 inches
Week's change: +150 grams (4 ounces), +/-0 inches
Net change:  +1300 grams (38 ounces), +3.5 inches 

A surprisingly good week, considering she's got a cold, so she's throwing up during the day.  (She throws up with any illness, stomach-related or not.)  It may have to do with the fact that she hasn't pooped in 2 days!

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

1-2-3 Blast Off!

Lately, Becca has been obsessed with space.  It started with the moon, spread to the stars, and then encompassed all things space.  She'll tell you that she wants to be an "AAAA-naut" (astronaut) when she grows up, but I think that with this spacesuit from Aunt Jenny and crew, she makes a pretty good one now.

p.s. Don't forget to contribute to Aubrie's Angels through the link on the right!

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Aubrie's Angels

You probably remember hearing me talk about my fabulous friend Mollie. She's amazing and hilarious and if you like this blog, you'd probably like hers (maybe even better; she's that amazing). On her blog, you hear about Daxton (who "wasn't ready for the world," born at 23 weeks, 5 days) and Tyler (for whom "the world wasn't ready," the big ole full-term chubster that he is). Each of these boys is in the running for Becca's arranged marriage partner. But on Mollie's blog, you'll also hear about Dax's twin, Aubrie, who was born at 21 weeks and really, really wasn't ready for the world.  Sadly, she only lived in this world for about a day.

For the past two years, Mollie has been trying to figure out how best to commemorate and honor Aubrie's brief yet beautiful life. A few weeks ago, THE idea hit her, and Aubrie's Angels was born.

I've whined mentioned before that having a kid with developmental issues involves a lot of extra costs, even if insurance covers everything medical (which is usually doesn't). With Becca, there is/was all the food we had to special order, the thousands of dollars in gas to get to and from all the therapy and doctor appointments, the special clothes, the adaptive gear, the therapy tools, and the toys.

"Toys?" you say? All kids need toys, right? And most of the kids we know have far too many toys! True, but for kids with special needs the right kind of toys are very important. Preemies and other special needs kids need toys that appropriately stimulate their various senses and specifically work their developing skills. (Think about it: it's not like you can tell an infant or toddler to do 10 reps of a certain motion, like you can do in adult physical therapy. You have to provide him or her with the motivation -- on their level -- to do perform the desired activity again and again.) I can't tell you how many times we've been in a therapy session, and the therapist has suggested and/or asked us to get a particular toy to use in our home therapy exercises. I'm a sucker for any excuse to buy a gift for Becca, but these toys (often premium or specialty brands) don't come cheap. While money doesn't exactly grow on trees here at Itty Bitty Hill, we manage. For many other families, though, the cost of these toys is downright prohibitive, and their kids go without the extra help of these important developmental and sensory toys. So these kids, already at a disadvantage because of their early birth or other special needs, fall farther and farther behind.

But you can help! As one of Aubrie's Angels, you can donate to help provide very special Christmas gifts that will benefit these kids throughout the year. In their first year, Mollie set a goal of collecting 100 developmentally-stimulating toys, and Aubrie's Angels across the country have stepped up to the challenge, almost meeting our goal already! But we'd also love to provide each child with a developmentally-appropriate book to go with their toys...because we at Itty Bitty Hill know the tremendous effect reading with a child can have on all aspects of development. And since I want to make any gift you give to Aubrie's Angels go even further, I am happy to use your monetary donations to purchase Usborne books at cost to give to these special kiddos.

And look what your small (or large!) gift will provide! A gift of $3-$7 will provide a basic learning board book (ABC's, 123's, etc), a visually-stimulating "Find-the-Duck", etc book, a special touchy-feely board book, a first-learning workbook, or -- so important to this population -- a book about going to the doctor. A gift of $10-$12 will provide a deluxe Touchy-Feely book, a first word dictionary (great for kids with communication delays) or the ever-popular Animal Hide-and-Seek, with flaps AND touchy-feely patches, (ideal for a toddler with sensory and fine motor issues).  Your generous gift of $20 will provide The Complete Book of Farmyard Tales, which includes 20 stories with 2 reading levels and a read-along c.d.* I'll have to get this order in soon, so take a minute now to donate securely by clicking on the link below. Thanks for helping to honor baby Aubrie by helping some special kids -- you truly are an Angel!


*The books listed are intended to give you an idea of how far your gift can go. I will work with Mollie to choose books that are best suited for the individual child who will receive them. If you'd like your contribution to be used for a particular book, please indicate it in a comment on this post. Thank you!

Friday, December 10, 2010

And the Winner Is...


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Card #2! Thanks for all you input! All three designs had their fans, but in the end, the balanced composition of #2 won out. Enjoy the finished product! (And please don't be offended if you don't receive a card in the mail; we are doing family only this year...unless I get a surprise offer of employment from an early Santa. :) ) Wishing you each and all peace, love and joy this Christmas and throughout the year!

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